From dominating acts of sexual encounter to enigmatic ways of talking to his favorite submissive reporter, Anastasia Steele, Christian Grey is currently the worldwide sex-symbol that women admire and from which men learn. If you think that his hot appearance isn’t good enough to make the character, his intensity that simply captures your attention will sure do the trick. It’s us who will see Mr. Grey now.
Watching or reading about Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey means facing so different emotional stages that the final thought is either you find him irresistible or outrageous.
Sure you might laugh when he says “If you were mine, you wouldn’t be able to sit down for a week” but you will definitely be lost for words when you see him rolling an ice cube over Anastasia’s chest. And even though you may began to catch on their tumultuous and sicken relationship you can’t stop looking and afterwards wonder on that luscious black leather from the “Red Room of Pain”.
At everyone’s appreciation is the way the movie carries you through all different stages of BDSM letting you decide for yourself what your boundaries are in this kind of sexual excitement. Paraphrasing Anastasia’s words that describe Mr. Grey at its best: “Christian, you are so confusing.” From buying her a new BMW car to selling her own Beetle with no permission whatsoever, not many people could say they quite understood this relationship.
Christian Grey’s main problem consists in the need of a submissive other one in order to concentrate his own sexual desires by the expression of dominance. Without a doubt he loves Ana because he doesn’t let anyone hurt her but he is he’s own enemy when he uses her for his pleasure.
Let alone, Anastasia, who is clearly in love with him but more important, in need of a protective figure, is clumsy, awkwardly innocent, funny and a virgin. Christian is the perfect man to initiate her. Perfect on paper because in reality he has different scenarios for Ana, scenarios that are much more controlling and intense.
The Interview Scene
“Anyone will tell you that sex scenes, regardless of the content of the film, are always a tricky experience and relatively uncomfortable,” says actor Jamie Dornan, who plays Christian Grey. “But I guess the scene that had for me personally the most pressure on it, was the interview scene.”
“Mr. Grey will see you now.”
Christian Grey meets Anastasia Steele when she comes to interview Christian, replacing her roommate Kate for their college newspaper. As a powerful CEO, Mr. Grey’s has his company’s headquarters in Seattle. On her way in to Christian’s office, Ana trips and falls to Christian’s inspiration of find he’s new submissive playmate.
According to Jamie, in this scene: “It’s the first time that we see Christian, and we see him in his highly impressive office, very much in charge and in a position of power,” the actor claims. “And all of that has to come across, but we also have to quickly feel the connection between the two right away.” The actors were given two days to shoot this scene because it really needed to be perfect.
And it did. The anticipation and impatience that everyone was waiting for the opening scene was almost touchable. All the trailers, all the cast, all the soundtracks and announcements were brought to that first moment when hundreds of women waited to see the powerful and controversial Mr. Grey in his well-known office. Just waiting for him to turn around.
The scene isn’t intense just by its reputation but also for the dialogues that made uncomfortable each and every one of us who watched it. You could actually feel Ana’s tension and shyness and you could definitely understand why Christian Grey is so “intimidating”.
He showed interest in Ana’s personality because he could tell she isn’t just a nerdy college student or just an overwhelmed unprepared shy girl. After Christian said: “I’d like to know more about you.” Ana comes with her unsure remark saying “There’s really nothing to know about me,” “Look at me” but it’s Christian’s reply that locks the excitement feeling in her: “I am.”
The Catching and Falling
One thing is for sure. Christian is not only a sexual deviant who just has kinky sex with Ana but he is a Prince Charming that sweeps Ana of her feet in this scene. Ana is a college student that has not had many interest in men before, probably because none of them has ever awaken in her such intrigued feeling.
After Christian invites Ana for coffee, the two head back to the hotel when Ana is almost run over by a cyclist. The next scene that captures this moment is the proof that Mr. Grey is so attractive in his gentleman way.
“ He prefers to keep Ana away from his dark side ”
Christian catches her and in his grip they both fall into a confused and nerve-racking tension that makes Ana wish she would be kissed. “It all happened so fast—one minute I’m falling, and the next I’m in his arms and he’s holding me tightly… He’s staring into my eyes, and I hold his anxious, burning gaze for a moment or maybe it’s forever … but eventually, my attention is drawn to his beautiful mouth. And for the first time in my 21 years, I want to be kissed. I want to feel his mouth on mine.”
The pressure of this moment is finally over when he refuses to kiss her while he whispers to her that he is not the man for her. Christian is deeply drawn to Ana but because of his dark side he prefers to keep Ana away from him at the beginning, not knowing how she will react.
This scene is where they both feel strong desire to kiss each other. Ana is left with the feeling that she might have misinterpreted the whole situation and Christian is more aware now than ever that his dark side and Ana’s innocence might not go along, although being so close to each other makes Ana wish for more. While Christian leaves with an even more eager feeling to kiss Ana because, as we know, what is forbidden makes you want it even more, especially with Christian’s secret.
The Ice Cubes Sex Scene
The famous gray tie is in this scene being stuffed into Christian’s back pocket. He comes in Ana’s bedroom to her apartment with two glasses of wine in response to an email she sent earlier. He ties his submissive to the bedpost while undressing her of her shirt to cover her eyes. He then takes an ice cube and puts it in his mouth and rolls it to Ana’s chest slowly going with it through her entire body.
How kinky is this scene? You have to watch it to understand how steamy an ice cube can make the foreplay. And it’s romantic too with the single “Haunted” by Beyoncé playing in the background and a couple of wine glasses makes out of this a pretty classy move.
This is actually the favorite sex scene of Dakota Johnson. “The virginity scene is something that is so beautiful,” “And the way that (cinematographer) Seamus McGarvey and director Sam Taylor-Johnson shot that scene, it’s really incredible. And the colors! It’s so saturated, and then just watching a really profound moment in a young girl’s life, I think that was pretty special to do.”
You don’t have to be theatre major to do this scene with your partner. You just have to be blindfolded, tied to the frame of the bed get yourself teased by wine and ice all over your body. Ask your partner to place the wine and the ice in your belly button and don’t spill it or else you shouldn’t be allowed to orgasm.
If you do spill the wine, your partner should tease you even more or even flip you over, while still tied up to the bed. Going for something different in the bedroom could bring the fun back into your sex life. The idea of any S&M fantasy is that it forces you to slow down in order to enjoy every kiss, touch and groping as well.
The Spanking Scene
While out on a date, Christian and Ana go through the negotiations of the BDSM contract. Ana finds funny a certain aspect of it and Christian is led the impression that she might see their agreement as a game. And Mr. Grey does not play around.
What Ana didn’t know is that she shouldn’t have rolled her eyes when Christian was seriously talking about BDSM negotiations. Of course Mr. Grey found the perfect opportunity to give his new submissive a lesson. He tells her that if she does it again he will bend her over his knees and spank her. If spanking isn’t your thing you should watch this scene and admit to yourself that you once tried it too.
The dominant and meticulous Christian has no choice than to show Ana what discipline means. He waits until they get home, pulls down her panties and gives her some serious slaps to the ass.
This leaves Anastasia wondering: Is Christian a good guy with a few strange sexual tendencies or is he bad influence with even darker secrets? Whatever she might think, she cannot control what her feelings. And she wants to feel more.
The outrage this scene has caused has made a controversy out of all of the BDSM practice but a statistical rundown based on the number of spanks during this movie and the result was a total of 14 which is not that blown out of proportions as people initially taught.
The actress Dakota Johnson didn’t actually took part in the spanking by a belt. “There was a close up of a bum getting hit with a belt. That was not my bum, because I didn’t want to get hit with a belt,” so it was other bum we saw in the punishing scene.
The Red Room of Pain Scene
The first time this BDSM couple have sex in the “Red Room of Pain” is quite the image. This is literally why almost everyone came to see Fifty Shades of Grey.
Christian informs Ana towards he’s intentions for her. She has to wait for him to come in the room on her knees with only her panties on and her hair braided.
As Ana gets more excited, Christian comes with a riding crop stroking her back, her shoulders, her arm and finally her palm.As she agrees that she likes it, Christian continues. In the background plays the intro of Beyoncé’s “Crazy in Love” remix as Ana has orgasm.
The scene isn’t only about the riding crop and the regular sex, it involves hair pulling, light suspension, spanking and rope. Together they develop several techniques that might not involve romance to be fair but it just depends on the perspective. And if you can’t see it that way, then why not have just explosive sex that makes you hot and bothered.
The thrilled Christian asks Ana at one point “See? The fear is all in your head.” And she really seemed to enjoy it but right after it’s over she gets suspicious and is concerned about her relationship type with Christian.
The Last Spanking
After entering the “Red Room of Pain” and getting to know a bit more about bondage and S&M, Anastasia wants to find out more. She wants from Christian to do the worst to her so that she finds out what does the worst look like in the world. He takes her to the red room and bends her over a table and then takes an extended paddle. He tells her she is going to be spanked six times and that she has to count out loud along with him. But Ana feels only pain and cries with every hit even more. In the end, Ana leaves horrified and shocked.
The terrible scene of punishment blows out of proportions because Ana is by far not ready for this kind of pain and Christian trust that she will endure. From this moment Ana doesn’t want to have anything to do with Christian Grey anymore. Because of this last sexual experience Ana realizes that she can’t be with him anymore.
“ Ana realizes that she can’t be with him anymore ”
She is still in love with him but want to finish their relationship. She returns him all of the items Christian brought for her, including the BMW and asks for a check to get her Beetle car back. They say goodbye in the very first place they saw each other. At the elevator.
Why women love Christian Grey? As Anastasia once asked herself: “No man has ever affected me the way Christian Grey has, and I cannot fathom why. Is it his looks? His civility? Wealth? Power?” Well…we don’t know what to say about civility, but the rest seems about right.
If it were to be determined who is the most vivid character, it would by Christian Grey by the standards of the book. Jamie’s appearance is exactly what it took for the absurd fantasy to become true. He somehow doesn’t accomplishes to reduce his ludicrous fantasy image only at some occasions.
By he’s own means, he is not that expressive which helps him build up his cold attitude and he’s curious yet mysterious look. You cannot say that he movie goes under Christian’s skin but doesn’t even need to. A cold and short shiver of confusion is all it takes from Christian Grey to get to us, as he mildly gets to enlighten us on his tastes and rules.